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Dear Alice

UNLUCKY IN LOVE

Dear Alice,
I’ve been single for around 3 years now and I am really ready to be in a relationship again. I have
been doing the whole Tinder thing and whilst I’ve had lots of first dates, and even some short
relationships, I haven’t been able to find the right guy. I’m beginning to worry that I will never
find love again.
– Lucy

Hi Lucy,
Firstly, I’m sorry to hear that you have been unlucky in love. It’s interesting that we are constantly connected by
technology and yet it has been reported that people today are the loneliest they have been in modern history. At
the end of the day, all we want is to feel understood and be connected with other people. If you have been trying
to meet people and have not been successful, perhaps your method is not working for you. I think that when you
have a certain idea of what ‘Mr Right’ will look like, you may be blind to multiple opportunities along the way.
Instead of focusing on meeting him right now, perhaps it would be beneficial to explore your own social hobbies.
When you take the pressure off yourself and start enjoying socialising, you may be invited into worlds you had
previously dismissed. ‘Mr Right’ may not be sitting on his phone looking at dating apps, he might be at a family BBQ
or hiking with a group of friends. When you take your focus off dating, and shift it onto genuinely connecting with
people, you may meet other people that could lead you to ‘Mr Right’. Sure, you may not think that attending your
work colleague’s niece’s birthday party is going to be fruitful; but perhaps you meet a new friend that invites you to
another event where you meet a nice guy. Step out of that tunnel vision and look around you, there are amazing
people everywhere. Lastly, I encourage you to be friendly and confident. Say hi to people while you’re out, you
never know who you’re standing next to!

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