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Dear Alice

Renewed

LOVE

Dear Alice,
I have been trying to get back into the dating scene. I’ve met a few people that I have genuinely connected
with, but I am struggling to open up to them. I have had a couple of long-term relationships before and

they didn’t work out at all. I’m worried that I attract the wrong people. I want to be open to love but I’m
scared of being hurt. I worry that I’m too damaged to find love again. What can I do?

Fern

Hey Fern, thank you for writing in! It takes a lot of courage to question yourself. I’m concerned to hear that you are internalising
your previous relationship “failures” as a fault of your own doing. Everyone is going to be the “wrong” person, until you meet the
“right” person. I want to rephrase that for you; say to yourself instead that perhaps you have been in relationships that were not
aligned with your values and dreams. Take away the blame. Maybe you have not chosen people that align with your values and
dreams. Maybe you haven’t clearly defined what your ideal relationship looks like. Maybe you haven’t established and enforced
clear boundaries. You are human and you are ever-growing, evolving and learning. Work within that viewpoint. Start writing out
what you want, what you need and what you won’t accept. By having a clear idea of these things, you won’t waste precious time
on people that don’t align with your values and dreams. Now I want to remind you that, just like the universe, the soul has no
clear start or end point. The most wonderful thing about love is that it is never going to run out. It is limitless in its potential. It’s
a renewable resource. How can you renew your feelings of love? I want you start from within. Love yourself; unconditionally and
without judgement. When you feel so much love inside of yourself, you can’t help but exhume love outwardly. You want to gift love
to everything and everyone. My theory of love is that love is a cycle; you feel it, you gift it and then you receive it. Perhaps dating
needs to take a backseat to your own self-love journey. And just remember, when you feel scared and you want to pull away; step
into fear. You are stronger than you know. Love always,

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